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I am December Lucky Lady
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A Amazing World
After lunch I had a 10 minute free 3D movie with colleague at a mall.Wednesday, 31 August 2011
为我三十五岁时要有一口标准英语而写的文章
Manglish Vs English https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pbQTKv83XxM . I agree with this video so I need to learn a standard English.
幸福的首要條件
问一个没有什么谈恋爱经验的女人，她的理想伴侣要有什么条件，你会发现，她们可以开出各式各样的条件，比如：温柔、体贴、有责任感、爱我、孝顺、有钱、有男子气概，或没有不良嗜好、可以养家活口、学历好、身高，有的还希望要有很好的职业：医生、律师，也有人喜欢军人......。
有钱归有钱，你可能用不到，不然，就是卷入了一个大家族。我认识一个女人，她本来有美貌有才华，经济上也自给自足，只因为恋爱失败，为赌一口气相亲嫁给了一个富家子，没想到，没捞到什么享受，反而换来一身劳役。家有家规，她每一天从早上忙到晚上十二点，全年三百六十五天无休，年薪还是看公公高兴才有。直到她离开了这个家，她才发现，自己的投资报酬率算错了
最委屈的是，她发现自己从未爱过那个没什么出息的纨裤子弟，还为他生儿育女。
有男子气概的人，可能生性暴躁，或者凶残。当初他迷人的地方，想来变成一种致命的吸引力。没有不良嗜好，听起来是个基本条件，但是如果除了没有不良嗜好之外，他就没什么好说的，你极可能会发现他是一个无趣的人，跟他一起过日子，好像永远在喝一碗没有加任何调味料的粥，连个配饭的小菜也没有。
如果你挑的是职业，挑医生、挑律师、挑有为的商人，难免会有一种「悔教夫婿觅封候」的感慨。他会忙得没有时间陪你，爱情品质常不如你的想像。
当然，以上都是往坏处想，你也可以往好处想，他如果没有时间陪你，你可能获得较多的自由。但在还没认识他之前，你本来就有不受约束的自由，婚姻或爱情，并不只是用来争取自由的。
一个好情人的基本品性？
我们都忽略了，幸福的首要条件，到底是什么？
我认为，一个好情人的基本品性，是尊重。
一个女人，学会找一个尊重她的男人，那么不管在何时何地，他懂得考量你的权益，就会以你的幸福为前提，他才能给你所要的「安全感」。他才不会假爱情和婚姻之名，行剥削和迫害之实。会尊重，才懂得信任
很多男人害怕「女权主义者」，可能在他们的脑海里，女权主义者等于母老虎。我们现在不要谈什么「主义」，也不要谈任何无趣的意识型态问题，白话一点来说，他必须是一个不会重男轻女的人，才不会把你视为工具。
他必须是一个把你和他自己放在同一个天平上的人，他应该认为，你不比他重要，但也不比他不重要，懂得尊重你的人生目标，以及生活乐趣，你快乐，他就会开心；他开心，不能造成你不快乐。
有些女人以为大男人主义者可以提供一个安全的羽翼，可以保护你，其实会保护女人的男人，不该以「大男人主义」来混淆称呼；「大男人主义」是指一个会重男轻女的男人。如果他重男轻女，一定会在热恋时期过后，回复本性，做任何决定都忘记把你考虑进去。
一个懂得尊重别人的人，至少是一个脑袋清楚的人，
这个时代讲究沟通，要做良性沟通，必得要找个脑袋清楚的人，才可能把问题解决。
幸福的基本条件，其实很简单，是尊重。
同样的，一个男人要让自己的爱情开出灿烂的桃花、结出甜美的果实，他也一样要找到一个懂得尊重别人，尊重自己的女人。
没有了尊重，一切的理想条件，都只是壁画、雕饰、泥土、砖块、水管，如果缺乏支撑屋顶的梁木，爱情便脆弱得不堪一击，更别提遮风蔽雨。
若你真的想要试验他对你的爱，老实说，问他爱不爱你，不如问他有关「生男生女」的问题，你比较能够了解他是不是你的理想对象，你在不在他眼里，他会不会尊重你。
如果你自己就有观念上的问题，那么「反省」一下吧，他为什么要把你看得比他要紧？你为什么值得他看重？连你自己都没有办法对自己平等啊。
我觉得可以一起生活陪着你的人就是幸福的首要條件。没经你的允许没有人可以伤到你的心。
Tuesday, 30 August 2011
爱的小岛 LOVE Island
Saturday, 20 August 2011
幸福是什么？
小猫:你只能用你爱的人的钱..
Thursday, 4 August 2011
7 Ways To Love Yourself
Despite all the tips and life hacks out there, I think the base of personal development comes down to something simpler: How much do you love yourself? I’m not talking about the kind of egotistical love based purely on pleasure and fame, but rather I’m talking about the strength of your relationship with yourself. Today I’d like to share with you 7 ways to love yourself and help you plugin to your identity.
Forgive Yourself and Forgive other
I’ve gone through a period of my life where I was extremely hard on myself. Every little mistake I made, I quickly amplified it into something much larger than it really was. I didn’t realize it at the time, but the fact that I didn’t forgive myself was preventing me from connecting with who I really was.
I know people who have carried their mistakes with them their entire life, and as result they remain unhappy at the core. I know what it’s like to make a mistake and feel like you shouldn’t be forgiven, but that kind of thinking is nonsense. There is no action not worthy of forgiveness. Forgiveness may take time, but don’t look back at your mistakes as a fatal flaw you must fix, instead choose to embrace them completely as the whole person you are.
Forgiving yourself for your mistakes and shortcomings can be difficult and does take practice, but it remains essential in loving yourself fully.
Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
I’m just as guilty as the next person in this area, for this is something that I too am struggling with even today. But as I’ve come to realize the more you compare yourself to others the less self worth you place on yourself.
When I became the main writer of this blog back in early February, I was somewhat insecureas to how I was going to be received. Taking over one of the most popular personal development blogs in the world is no easy feat, especially when Glen provided so much value day in and day out.
I’d be lying if I said I didn’t have moments where I would compare myself to the past successes of Glen and PluginID, which as I soon found out was a stupid and pointless. It was because of writing this article that I came to understand how foolish it is to compare yourself to others. Only when you stop comparing yourself to others can then you then begin to love yourself. I think it’s ironic how easily this article has ‘flown’ :)
Stop Seeking Approval
Seeking approval is similar to comparing yourself to others, and it’s fair to say that we all do it from time to time. I’m not going to lie and say I’ve never sought approval from my family or friends, but I’m also going to tell you that when approval was my main focus those were also not the happiest times in my life.
Over the past year or so I’ve come to realize that my career path probably won’t be the most accepted by my friends and family, that is I want to be an entrepreneur, a writer, and a public speaker. Yet, I’ve come to discover that when you continuously seek approval from others to validate your own self worth, you’re simply damaging yourself relationship with yourself. I’ve accepted that my line of work might not be the ‘safest’ but I’m OK with that.
Not seeking approval doesn’t mean to not care. I can say without hesitation that I genuinely care about what my family and friends think, however it’s important you stop the process ofseeking. When you rely on being happy from an outside source your setting yourself up to be miserable.
Believe In Yourself
Loving and believing in yourself go hand in hand. You can’t love yourself if you don’t believe in yourself, and you can’t believe in yourself if you don’t love yourself first. To fully experience what it means to live you must have a confidence in all you do, even during the times in which you come up short.
Believing in yourself can be hard at times, especially when nothing seems to be going right, but it is during those times that you need your own love the most.The wonderful about believing in yourself is that you are the only one responsible. You don’t need a stamp of approval before you can to begin to have faith in yourself.
Trust in your judgement and know that through both the good and bad you are worthy.
Practice Silence
Some of my happiest moments have occurred when I’m simply sitting in silence by myself. While I can be a very social person at times, I also need to have my alone time. For me, this sometimes means meditation, or sometimes I’ll just go for a long walk. Practicing silence allows for you to get a glimpse of the person you really are.
I know the act of practicing silence may not qualify as love for some people,but I feel I’m most connected with myself spiritually when I’m still. While I don’t resonate fully with any one particular religion, I’ve had my most spiritual moments when I’m sitting in complete silence.
Practicing silence allows for you to turn off all that chatter and self doubt and directly experience the bliss of being alive. You owe it to yourself to be silent at least once a day.
Eat Healthy And Exercise
Part of loving yourself is allowing your body to be in its top form. An occasional indulgence in alcohol or some fast food isn’t the end of the in the world but making a habit of destroying your body is. Many don’t realize, but your relationship to your physical body and mind is veryimportant.
Truly loving yourself means that you take care of your body and do everything you can to keep it in good shape, both physically and mentally. Don’t expect to have a good relationship with yourself if you abuse the machine consistently.
A few weeks ago I realized that I wasn’t taking as much care of my body as I should be, so I committed to going to the gym 5 days a week. While it’s only been a few weeks, I’ve already noticed the benefits of going to the gym and eating healthy. Small steps make a massive difference.
Express Yourself
One of the greatest ways you can love yourself is to express your gifts, whatever they may be. Finding and honing your brilliance is a way to reveal what it is that makes you remarkable. Do you enjoy to write? Share your stories with the world. Do you like to draw? Paint until your hearts content. Do you like helping people find their purpose? Do so by connecting with as many people as you can. It doesn’t matter what your passions are,express them to the best of your ability.
Unfortunately, Some people chose not to express their talents and passions because they feel as if they might get ridiculed or made fun of. But the reality is, failing to express yourself is failing to love yourself. Loving yourself comes down to expression.
Are you able to express your beauty within? As one of my favorite runners Steve Prefontaine once said, ” To give anything less than your best is to sacrifice the gift.”
Loving Yourself
If you really want to change the world, if you really want to experience that life you’ve always desired, you must first love yourself fully, because all the advice in the world won’t matter if you don’t.
It won’t always be be easy, but your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you will ever have. Make each day a day in which you continue to deepen your relationship with yourself and experience the life you know you were meant to live. The world depends on you to love yourself.
I love myself.
The more important question is, do you? Click here for the source.
Tuesday, 2 August 2011
A wonderful month, A brand new start, I am August lucky girl 2011
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I am July lucky girl 2011
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心情好一切都好
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Darling, I Love You...
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Happy New Year 2011
